LITTLE WHITE LIES

Have you ever lied? Do not say “No, never!” I won’t believe in you because you lie even while saying “No!”... Lying is a bad thing; however, it’s sometimes necessary. What matters is the reason that makes you tell a lie.

Everybody tells at least a lie in his/her life. In our daily life, there are lots of people who lie to us and whom we lie to. For example, salespeople, friends, teachers, siblings, parents, etc. Even sometimes, we lie to ourselves! So, do you think this means that we are bad people? No, not always.

Sometimes, you lie just because you need to. This kind of lies are called “white lies”. In some situations, if you don’t lie, may be somebody will be hurt. For example, your child drew a picture. It doesn’ t look like anything but you say, “Oh, it’s wonderful! Well done, honey...” Yes, you’ ve lied but this little white lie has encouraged your child and made him/her happy.

Sometimes, you disregard the truths - or lie to yourself. Because you want to feel good. This may be a good idea when you are sad or hopeless. However, you should not be hooked on it too much. It’s similar to the daydreaming. I’ll give a simple example: Think that you want to go on a holiday but have no chance to save enough money for it. You crave for it and you are sure that it will come true one day. So, you are making preparations for holiday. You ‘re buying a swimsuit, sun-cream or looking at the advertisements to find a good hotel. Well, you’re just cheating yourself. Do not dive into the deep, you may be drowned in the swimming pool of that hotel. Yet, who knows, may be one day you find yourself while sunbathing on the side of the that pool...

To sum up, neither you nor the others must be given damage because of your lies. Sometimes, it may be useful to tell a lie – but just for simple things. Do not make it a habit of you. Anyway, how could we cope with this liar world without telling lies? We should play the game according to its rules...

by Merve Sağıroğlu